(And exactly what you can do to fix it without NHS waiting lists and anti-depressants)
See if this sounds familiar…
It’s the school run.
You drop your kids off at the gate and then rush off; can’t risk awkward small talk with the mums.
Then the weekend comes.
A friend’s 40th.
You haven’t been out in ages, but you feel like you won’t add much value.
Also, whatsername’s there and she makes you feel on edge.
You text to say your kid has just come down with something.
Night in front of the box it is.
You’re at work.
You’ve been given a big project and you’re bricking it.
“What if I mess it up? What if they find me out to be fraud?” you tell yourself.
You pass the project back. Just easier that way. Someone better can do it.
You’re in bed with your husband.
He seems distant.
You think the worst.
“Omg he’s going off me. Is he seeing someone else? I’m not good enough for him anymore”
So, you give him the cold shoulder back. He asks:
“What’s wrong with you?”
“Exactly. What IS wrong with me?” you reply.
Cos, to everyone else you have the perfect life. The job. The kids. The husband. The house. The friends.
And heaven forbid you burst peoples’ bubble of what they think of you.
But, there’s just this niggling feeling that it’s all not enough. Like there’s something missing.
You lose excitement for things.
Worry that something dreadful is around the corner. Not just once though, all the time.
You wonder: “Is this normal?” then freak out at the idea you could be depressed.
You don’t want to take pills, though.
You say: “Is there a cure to make someone happy again?” I say:
Of course, there’s a cure to make yourself happy.
So, exactly what is this cure, this fix-it solution? The way I help people with a problem is very different to a therapist or a counsellor because I’m trained to do much more than just listen.
AND YES, IT IS DIFFERENT AND MORE EFFECTIVE THAN COUNSELLING OR THERAPY, BECAUSE…
Where seeing a Counsellor or Therapist gives you someone to talk to, seeing a Psychologist
gives you someone qualified to truly understand your feelings, AS WELL as giving you
practical methods on how to overcome what’s troubling you. It’s based on science and what
has been evidence based to be most effective. Whilst being listened to can be really useful,
I’m guessing that solving problems is what you really need?