Of course, we all want to do things well, a quest for perfection can be admirable. There is however, a huge difference between wanting to do things well and having a problem with perfectionism. Consider instead Perfectly Imperfect.
It’s incredibly frustrating when people persist in perfecting tasks and attending to detail in a way that makes tasks take much longer, without adding substantially to the outcome.
Alternatively they may want to surpass expectations by miles, just because they can. People who run perfectionism cause huge distress to themselves and the perfection often impairs their ability to live a successful life.
I know – that little voice in your head constantly pushes you to be perfect. But as we all know, being perfect is impossible. I would suspect that at this point anybody who struggles with perfectionism has stopped reading.
The last thing that little (but loud) voice wants to hear is any evidence against a constant strive for perfection. After all, without a constant struggle against being just good enough, you’d have to find something else to beat yourself up about.
Perfectionism is usually a part of anxiety. If you spend your days feeling unworthy and never good enough, it’s obvious you’ll be fearful about the world and everyone in it. Oh, and did I mention the third partner in the miserable life trilogy? Low self-esteem always runs alongside perfectionism and anxiety……..as if things weren’t bad enough.
The key to unlocking perfectionism and freeing yourself from the shackles of its close friends, anxiety and low self-esteem, depends on identifying the thoughts and behaviour maintaining it.
Things like setting the bar impossibly high, all or nothing thinking and counterproductive behaviour of checking, avoidance and being overly thorough all need addressing.
Addressing the beliefs that feed your thoughts and behaviour are often essential. Does how you judge yourself depend on your achievement and is that voice yours or someone elses?
Known as the best psychologist around, Wendy’s an obvious choice to be featured on the show’
Cheshire Housewives
As an ex-athlete I’ve always advocated the benefits of keeping in shape physically, but it’s just as important to look after your mental wellbeing. Book a session with Wendy, she’s the person to help you look after your brain just as you would your body.
Graham Bell
5 x Olympic Skier and presenter of BBC Ski Sunday.
Amazing!
Rachel Lugo
Cheshire Housewives
Dare to dream big and Wendy’s THE person to help get you there.
Sam Bailey
X Factor winner with a long list of sell out tour successes under her belt.
The most exciting thing in the world is getting a chance to tear it all up and start again. Keep all the things you want and throw out everything you don’t. Wendy will help you do just that!
Becky Sheeran
Beauty, lifestyle and fashion blogging sensation Becky Sheeran (TalkBeckyTalk)
It’s great to have a leading psychotherapist such as Wendy in the Cheshire area, outside of her Harley Street practice. After publicly raising awareness of mental health issues and myself recovering from depression, I know how immensely life-changing expert intervention can be.
Jason Jarrett
Retired ex-professional football who played for Bury, Wigan, Stoke, Preston, Norwich, Leicester and Brighton during a 14 year career. After leaving professional football, Jason battled depression and recovered with the help of therapy and family support.
Wendy is great at what she does; she made me feel at ease immediately and really helped me work through some issues.
Tara Costello
It’s funny but from the minute I met her I felt so relaxed and she was so easy to talk to. Thank you!
Stevie Brown
Wendy isn’t only really good at what she does, she’s also really easy to talk to.
Gabriel Wilson
I want to thank you Wendy from the bottom of my heart for guiding me through what must have been the most difficult time of my life.
Raza Syed
I was told she was the best and they were right.
Noelle Dray
Although I consider myself a confident person, I was really nervous when I met Wendy for the first time. I had only emailed her before so it was really nerve wracking walking up the stairs to her office. I can honestly say it’s one of the best things I have ever done. Wendy is really normal, no in fact she isn’t normal as she is unfailingly bright and smiley even when she has to listen to me moan on about how awful my life was. It feels like having a chat with somebody who just gets you and you can trust with things you have never trusted anybody else with before. The magic bit comes when things you have talked about just pop up into your head and you start to do things differently. Wendy once joked about not having a magic wand, but I think she has.
Paul Hendry
I came to Wendy with a set of problems I have never been able to fully explain to anyone, which included grief, many family issues and alcohol problems. Wendy truly has an active listening style and absorbs everything you are saying, whilst not making you feel analysed, it is an incredible skill. She astounded me at how she got to the crux of the issues so fast. So much so that we both agreed I only needed one session with her, obviously this may not be the case with everyone but I would confidently recommend her to anyone, regardless of your problems. There was no awkwardness or even clock watching, she is wonderful at what she does, take the plunge and make an appointment, you will not regret it. Life is a direction not a destination and she will get you on the path again.
JB
