If you must continue to accommodate the abuser in your life as for example, a family member or coparent, I have a tried and tested formula for doing so that works. Once you’ve recovered from the abuse, it’s important to protect yourself from future abuse and adhering to this rule is all you need to do.
That’s it, that’s the magic formula……simple, isn’t it?
What it means is to only communicate when absolutely necessary, keep any emotion out of communication, and keep it brief; emotional abusers and/or narcissists thrive on every bit of detail they can get from you, so give them none.