If you struggle with anxiety, I’m sure you’ll spend all week being bombarded with information about anxiety.
But let’s be honest, what you actually want to know is; how to fix anxiety, kick it to the curb, never have to think about it again, stop it controlling your life, feel like you’re free of the mind bully.
A quick scroll through Google will bring up all the usual suspects of; go for a walk, relaxation techniques and general self-care tips. Whilst these are all very useful, they don’t quite cut it do they?
As a psychologist who works a lot with anxiety, I’m giving myself a bit of pressure to step-up. Surely, after 25 years, and overcoming anxiety myself, I know some things that Dr Google won’t tell you?
🌟 There are 2 main types of solutions to fight anxiety with. One of them is about getting angry and confronting anxiety, fighting it, and pushing it right out the door. The other way of shifting anxiety is about accepting it, not giving it any attention or focus. Just allowing it to be there, without feeding it any way.
🌟 I always start off by showing people how to tool themselves up to fight anxiety. If this starts to work for a little while, but then seems to make it worse, the second approach will work better for you.
🌟 Breathing exercises and journalling actually really help to reduce anxiety. But, you have to know and understand how to use them properly.
🌟 Mindfulness has been built into a huge industry that makes it seem like a special skill you have to spend time learning and practising. Even mental health is full of marketing spin, buy yourself a simple book and have a quick read, it’s easy to do and helps. More book recommendations to follow, this week.
🌟 Yes, you can overcome anxiety, it’s not something you have to live with. My previous clients and I are proof of this. Yes, when you’re under stress, you’ll feel anxious, because its normal to feel anxious, but you’ll not feel anxious on a daily basis as I suspect you do now.
🌟 There are a couple of important tools to learn and use that I notice make a huge difference people. These are important to learn because they help you recognise that you can control anxiety, and this gives you confidence that you’ll overcome it.
🌟 The places to make changes that matter to anxiety are what you do (behaviour) and what you think (cognitions). Changing these things are the only way to overcome anxiety for good. Everything else merely reduces the symptoms.
🌟 Control has become such an unfashionable word that nobody uses it anymore. You can’t begin to unlock anxiety without discussing control. Anyone who runs anxiety will have issues with control. Anxiety is our brains attempt to control a world we feel is out of our control. Unfortunately, control of anything, other than ourselves is an impossible task.
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It’s great to have a leading psychotherapist such as Wendy in the Cheshire area, outside of her Harley Street practice. After publicly raising awareness of mental health issues and myself recovering from depression, I know how immensely life-changing expert intervention can be.
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Retired ex-professional football who played for Bury, Wigan, Stoke, Preston, Norwich, Leicester and Brighton during a 14 year career. After leaving professional football, Jason battled depression and recovered with the help of therapy and family support.
Wendy is great at what she does; she made me feel at ease immediately and really helped me work through some issues.
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It’s funny but from the minute I met her I felt so relaxed and she was so easy to talk to. Thank you!
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I want to thank you Wendy from the bottom of my heart for guiding me through what must have been the most difficult time of my life.
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Although I consider myself a confident person, I was really nervous when I met Wendy for the first time. I had only emailed her before so it was really nerve wracking walking up the stairs to her office. I can honestly say it’s one of the best things I have ever done. Wendy is really normal, no in fact she isn’t normal as she is unfailingly bright and smiley even when she has to listen to me moan on about how awful my life was. It feels like having a chat with somebody who just gets you and you can trust with things you have never trusted anybody else with before. The magic bit comes when things you have talked about just pop up into your head and you start to do things differently. Wendy once joked about not having a magic wand, but I think she has.
Paul Hendry
I came to Wendy with a set of problems I have never been able to fully explain to anyone, which included grief, many family issues and alcohol problems. Wendy truly has an active listening style and absorbs everything you are saying, whilst not making you feel analysed, it is an incredible skill. She astounded me at how she got to the crux of the issues so fast. So much so that we both agreed I only needed one session with her, obviously this may not be the case with everyone but I would confidently recommend her to anyone, regardless of your problems. There was no awkwardness or even clock watching, she is wonderful at what she does, take the plunge and make an appointment, you will not regret it. Life is a direction not a destination and she will get you on the path again.
JB
