Not only intimate relationships, but friendships and relationships with family. Hopefully people walk through my door at a point when things can be sorted amicably, but sometimes clients have struggled through a toxic relationship.
There’s a universally accepted pattern of grief that moves through the 5 stages of: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. We know that these stages can come in a different order, or one can be missed or repeated.
In research on difficult relationships, including emotionally violent or other toxic relationships, researchers have found similar patterns and stages of recovery to those experienced by the bereaved.
These are the six stages of recovery from toxic relationships that I have witnessed in my practice. Like the stages of grief mentioned above, these stages do not always happen in chronological order, can be skipped over or repeated, and the grief cycle can start in different stages. While the end goal is always understanding, peace and happiness, recovery looks different to each individual and no two paths are alike.