Are you worried about being made redundant?
Anxiety, stress and worry are currently at an all-time high, and no wonder. With most of the workforce furloughed or already made redundant, these are incredibly worrying times. With no guarantee that furlough won’t eventually lead to redundancy and no sign of the lock-down easing, how do we remain positive?
Why do you worry more than most?
The foundation for all worry and anxiety is the idea of uncertainty. As humans, what we find incredibly difficult to manage is the not knowing and feeling out of control. We call this an inability to tolerate uncertainty. We need things to be black and white and certain to feel that we’re winning at life, even if sometimes we’re not. Have you ever noticed that some people just aren’t worried by things like redundancy, things that would send you into total meltdown? Maybe it’s time to tackle anxiety and worry by enrolling on an on-line course like this one www.fearlessfemale.co.uk
My world is out of control
It’s all about feeling in control of your future. ‘Control’ has such negative connotations but actually we’re all happiest when we feel in control of ourselves and our life. When something happens that’s out of your control, i.e. redundancy, this can trigger a stress reaction and we feel worried and anxious.
So how do you take back control?
There are practical things you can do to feel in control of your world; notice I used the word ‘feel.’ Control is imaginary, it’s never real and tangible so we have to do things that make us ‘feel’ in control. If you’ve already been made redundant, get yourself registered with one of the better recruitment agencies. Even if you’ve not been made redundant yet, but think it’s possible, get yourself registered as there’s no harm in looking. Enroll on a course to update your skills, there are many you can do online that cost very little. Realizing that your dream job is out there, right now, can be very reassuring. Most importantly, feeling like you’re being proactive will put you back in charge.
Developing resilience
People that seem impervious to stress and worry have a very effective coping mechanism; they have a cast-iron belief in their ability to cope. People that cope well with the bumps and bruises of life always feel in control because they know they’ll cope. They’re not just positive for the sake of being positive, which would be unrealistic.
Those of you who know that you worry and often suffer with stress and anxiety may actually be the ones who are being unrealistic. You may feel that running worst case scenario keeps you safe, but have you ever stopped to think about how unrealistic worst-case scenario is? How often has worst case scenario actually happened? Pull yourself back from running the absolute worst and balance your future forecasting with a more realistic view of the future.
In a nutshell
If you’ve already been made redundant or see it looming on the horizon, decide that you’re not going to react in your normal anxious, worried way. This is how to do it differently.
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