Whilst you may have elements of all or some of this in the way you behave, there’s an important reason behind it.
You may feel actively anxious, or you may be prone to anxiety but feel mostly ok. Regardless of your anxiety status, you’ll spend a lot of your day keeping your world and everyone in it, safe.
For some, safety will be looking after elderly parents, steering kids in the right direction and ensuring that everyone is happy. For others, safety will be about paying bills on time, and keeping their relationship together.
What starts off as steering the kids in a better direction, can quickly be perceived as controlling and critical parenting. I understand it comes from the best of intentions, but once safety behaviour gets a bit out of control (!) it becomes the opposite of keeping everyone safe.
If you know you’ve a tendency to do this, decide where your boundary is and stick to it. When you’ve hit your boundary, throw the rest out to fate. You may be pushing your teenager to go to university rather than do an apprenticeship in their best interests, but there’s a limit to how much you can push and a point at which you let them make their own decisions and leave the rest to fate.
As an ex-athlete I’ve always advocated the benefits of keeping in shape physically, but it’s just as important to look after your mental wellbeing. Book a session with Wendy, she’s the person to help you look after your brain just as you would your body.
5 x Olympic Skier and presenter of BBC Ski Sunday.
Dare to dream big and Wendy’s THE person to help get you there.
X Factor winner with a long list of sell out tour successes under her belt.
The most exciting thing in the world is getting a chance to tear it all up and start again. Keep all the things you want and throw out everything you don’t. Wendy will help you do just that!
Beauty, lifestyle and fashion blogging sensation Becky Sheeran (TalkBeckyTalk)
It’s great to have a leading psychotherapist such as Wendy in the Cheshire area, outside of her Harley Street practice. After publicly raising awareness of mental health issues and myself recovering from depression, I know how immensely life-changing expert intervention can be.
Retired ex-professional football who played for Bury, Wigan, Stoke, Preston, Norwich, Leicester and Brighton during a 14 year career. After leaving professional football, Jason battled depression and recovered with the help of therapy and family support.