It was such sad news about the death of the queen. Regardless of your views on the royal family, the queen has been a constant in most people’s lives. It’s a particularly tough time for the royal family who must live out their grief in front of the worlds press.
Watching all this week’s events unfold may be more difficult for some of you who have experienced grief.
We all have our own way of dealing with grief; some may lock it away and keep moving forwards, some may feel stuck and unable to move on, others may be unable to cope at all.
Everyone cycles through the different stages of grief, until they get to the point of acceptance.
Sometimes it’s not death that triggers grief, it can be the end of a relationship, or the end of a way of life. This will feel the same as grief, but people are more likely to not understand or make allowances for what you’re going through.
There are 5 stages of grief that people go through, until you get to the end point of acceptance. Remember that grief isn’t only triggered by death, but by things ending and having to let go of them.
Denial is almost disbelief that this is happening. It’s waiting for someone to tell you that there’s been a terrible mistake so that your life can go back to normal.
Anger is just that. Feeling angry that this terrible thing has happened and why has it happened to you, or them. Rallying against the injustice of things and how unfair it is.
Bargaining is the point at which you may feel guilt. You may ask yourself questions about things you ‘should’ have done differently, or if only you had or hadn’t done this……..everything would be ok.
Depression is a normal, human reaction to grief. It’s an appropriate reaction to the sadness of loss or change. At this point, you may feel stuck and unable to move on with your life.
Acceptance is when you can accept and make sense of what has happened in your life. You can acknowledge and adjust your life accordingly. Yes, the sadness will still be there, but it doesn’t stop you rebuilding and enjoying your future.
Known as the best psychologist around, Wendy’s an obvious choice to be featured on the show’
Cheshire Housewives
As an ex-athlete I’ve always advocated the benefits of keeping in shape physically, but it’s just as important to look after your mental wellbeing. Book a session with Wendy, she’s the person to help you look after your brain just as you would your body.
Graham Bell
5 x Olympic Skier and presenter of BBC Ski Sunday.
Amazing!
Rachel Lugo
Cheshire Housewives
Dare to dream big and Wendy’s THE person to help get you there.
Sam Bailey
X Factor winner with a long list of sell out tour successes under her belt.
The most exciting thing in the world is getting a chance to tear it all up and start again. Keep all the things you want and throw out everything you don’t. Wendy will help you do just that!
Becky Sheeran
Beauty, lifestyle and fashion blogging sensation Becky Sheeran (TalkBeckyTalk)
It’s great to have a leading psychotherapist such as Wendy in the Cheshire area, outside of her Harley Street practice. After publicly raising awareness of mental health issues and myself recovering from depression, I know how immensely life-changing expert intervention can be.
Jason Jarrett
Retired ex-professional football who played for Bury, Wigan, Stoke, Preston, Norwich, Leicester and Brighton during a 14 year career. After leaving professional football, Jason battled depression and recovered with the help of therapy and family support.
Wendy is great at what she does; she made me feel at ease immediately and really helped me work through some issues.
Tara Costello
It’s funny but from the minute I met her I felt so relaxed and she was so easy to talk to. Thank you!
Stevie Brown
Wendy isn’t only really good at what she does, she’s also really easy to talk to.
Gabriel Wilson
I want to thank you Wendy from the bottom of my heart for guiding me through what must have been the most difficult time of my life.
Raza Syed
I was told she was the best and they were right.
Noelle Dray
Although I consider myself a confident person, I was really nervous when I met Wendy for the first time. I had only emailed her before so it was really nerve wracking walking up the stairs to her office. I can honestly say it’s one of the best things I have ever done. Wendy is really normal, no in fact she isn’t normal as she is unfailingly bright and smiley even when she has to listen to me moan on about how awful my life was. It feels like having a chat with somebody who just gets you and you can trust with things you have never trusted anybody else with before. The magic bit comes when things you have talked about just pop up into your head and you start to do things differently. Wendy once joked about not having a magic wand, but I think she has.
Paul Hendry
I came to Wendy with a set of problems I have never been able to fully explain to anyone, which included grief, many family issues and alcohol problems. Wendy truly has an active listening style and absorbs everything you are saying, whilst not making you feel analysed, it is an incredible skill. She astounded me at how she got to the crux of the issues so fast. So much so that we both agreed I only needed one session with her, obviously this may not be the case with everyone but I would confidently recommend her to anyone, regardless of your problems. There was no awkwardness or even clock watching, she is wonderful at what she does, take the plunge and make an appointment, you will not regret it. Life is a direction not a destination and she will get you on the path again.
JB
