Paying attention to too much detail is the easiest way in the world to make yourself stressed and ensure that you feel totally overwhelmed with life. Some people are naturally ‘detail’ orientated and their default setting is to focus on the small details in life. This naturally detailed approach to the world is fantastic if you want a really precise job doing, but incredibly challenging if you add a sprinkling of life stress to the mix. People who are naturally ‘big thinkers’ who see the world in large chunks and find it difficult to apply themselves to small detail can suffer stress in a similar way. Big thinkers have a tendency to take too much on which means that they will be even less effective at finishing tasks or doing the detail. For these people the sheer volume of tasks starts to feel overwhelming and they feel totally out of control of their world and although normally unconcerned with detail, the slightest thing will then feel huge.
So once you find yourself in this state, or well on the way, what’s the best thing to do?
Offload. Whether you’re a detail or a big picture person you need to offload all the things you do that just aren’t important. You need to do with your life what you do with that drawer full of rubbish that ‘may just come in handy’. Strip out anything non-essential, or anything that takes more energy than it gives; that includes people, responsibilities and thoughts.
Relax. Take some time to relax. Just lie on your sofa and listen to some music or download a relaxation track. Headspace is a very useful website, have a look round to find a track that suits you.
Context. This is about asking yourself that ‘does it really matter; will anybody die?’ question. When people suffer from stress or anxiety a part of the problem will be that they are making things overwhelmingly important, like their worlds will end. Put things in context against somebody you know who is having an incredibly tough time, illness, death etc. this will help you feel that the things you are struggling with can be overcome and minimise their importance.
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It’s great to have a leading psychotherapist such as Wendy in the Cheshire area, outside of her Harley Street practice. After publicly raising awareness of mental health issues and myself recovering from depression, I know how immensely life-changing expert intervention can be.
Jason Jarrett
Retired ex-professional football who played for Bury, Wigan, Stoke, Preston, Norwich, Leicester and Brighton during a 14 year career. After leaving professional football, Jason battled depression and recovered with the help of therapy and family support.
Wendy is great at what she does; she made me feel at ease immediately and really helped me work through some issues.
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It’s funny but from the minute I met her I felt so relaxed and she was so easy to talk to. Thank you!
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I want to thank you Wendy from the bottom of my heart for guiding me through what must have been the most difficult time of my life.
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Noelle Dray
Although I consider myself a confident person, I was really nervous when I met Wendy for the first time. I had only emailed her before so it was really nerve wracking walking up the stairs to her office. I can honestly say it’s one of the best things I have ever done. Wendy is really normal, no in fact she isn’t normal as she is unfailingly bright and smiley even when she has to listen to me moan on about how awful my life was. It feels like having a chat with somebody who just gets you and you can trust with things you have never trusted anybody else with before. The magic bit comes when things you have talked about just pop up into your head and you start to do things differently. Wendy once joked about not having a magic wand, but I think she has.
Paul Hendry
I came to Wendy with a set of problems I have never been able to fully explain to anyone, which included grief, many family issues and alcohol problems. Wendy truly has an active listening style and absorbs everything you are saying, whilst not making you feel analysed, it is an incredible skill. She astounded me at how she got to the crux of the issues so fast. So much so that we both agreed I only needed one session with her, obviously this may not be the case with everyone but I would confidently recommend her to anyone, regardless of your problems. There was no awkwardness or even clock watching, she is wonderful at what she does, take the plunge and make an appointment, you will not regret it. Life is a direction not a destination and she will get you on the path again.
JB
