I already know that most people that walk through my door have a problem with self-esteem. The sort of problems that I deal with such as anxiety and depression always lead to low self-esteem. I guess most people are wondering why I’m specifically using the words self-esteem rather than confidence. The reason is that there’s a huge difference between confidence and self –esteem. Confidence is the thing that people see on the outside, whether you seem relaxed and happy in situations. Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself. You can be hugely confident and have low self-esteem, or have great self-esteem and low confidence. Some have low self-esteem and confidence.
Confused yet?! The fact that you can have low self-esteem but good confidence gives us clues about improving confidence. Have a think about people you know who are very negative and critical about themselves but are always ‘the life and soul of the party.’ An interesting thing that people with low self-esteem sometimes do is to appear very confident (often aided and abetted with large quantities of alcohol), when in fact it’s just an act and they need the attention to try and feed their low self-esteem. You can act as if you are confident in situations, just as people do with low self-esteem. Think about somebody you know or respect who seems genuinely confident and think about how they would appear in certain situations; copy their body language and the type of things they would say. The more you practice, the better you will get at appearing confident until it becomes a part of you, rather than ‘trying to act as if.’
Self-esteem is a different ‘animal’ and often needs professional help as the reasons why you don’t like who you are can be complex and deep rooted. Usual reasons are over critical parenting, leading you to feel that you never achieve things (perversely often a problem with high achievers) and a (faulty) value and belief system that tells you that the world and other people don’t like or approve you.
Don’t let low self-esteem get in the way of your development. See what therapy can do to help.
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Cheshire Housewives
As an ex-athlete I’ve always advocated the benefits of keeping in shape physically, but it’s just as important to look after your mental wellbeing. Book a session with Wendy, she’s the person to help you look after your brain just as you would your body.
Graham Bell
5 x Olympic Skier and presenter of BBC Ski Sunday.
Amazing!
Rachel Lugo
Cheshire Housewives
Dare to dream big and Wendy’s THE person to help get you there.
Sam Bailey
X Factor winner with a long list of sell out tour successes under her belt.
The most exciting thing in the world is getting a chance to tear it all up and start again. Keep all the things you want and throw out everything you don’t. Wendy will help you do just that!
Becky Sheeran
Beauty, lifestyle and fashion blogging sensation Becky Sheeran (TalkBeckyTalk)
It’s great to have a leading psychotherapist such as Wendy in the Cheshire area, outside of her Harley Street practice. After publicly raising awareness of mental health issues and myself recovering from depression, I know how immensely life-changing expert intervention can be.
Jason Jarrett
Retired ex-professional football who played for Bury, Wigan, Stoke, Preston, Norwich, Leicester and Brighton during a 14 year career. After leaving professional football, Jason battled depression and recovered with the help of therapy and family support.
Wendy is great at what she does; she made me feel at ease immediately and really helped me work through some issues.
Tara Costello
It’s funny but from the minute I met her I felt so relaxed and she was so easy to talk to. Thank you!
Stevie Brown
Wendy isn’t only really good at what she does, she’s also really easy to talk to.
Gabriel Wilson
I want to thank you Wendy from the bottom of my heart for guiding me through what must have been the most difficult time of my life.
Raza Syed
I was told she was the best and they were right.
Noelle Dray
Although I consider myself a confident person, I was really nervous when I met Wendy for the first time. I had only emailed her before so it was really nerve wracking walking up the stairs to her office. I can honestly say it’s one of the best things I have ever done. Wendy is really normal, no in fact she isn’t normal as she is unfailingly bright and smiley even when she has to listen to me moan on about how awful my life was. It feels like having a chat with somebody who just gets you and you can trust with things you have never trusted anybody else with before. The magic bit comes when things you have talked about just pop up into your head and you start to do things differently. Wendy once joked about not having a magic wand, but I think she has.
Paul Hendry
I came to Wendy with a set of problems I have never been able to fully explain to anyone, which included grief, many family issues and alcohol problems. Wendy truly has an active listening style and absorbs everything you are saying, whilst not making you feel analysed, it is an incredible skill. She astounded me at how she got to the crux of the issues so fast. So much so that we both agreed I only needed one session with her, obviously this may not be the case with everyone but I would confidently recommend her to anyone, regardless of your problems. There was no awkwardness or even clock watching, she is wonderful at what she does, take the plunge and make an appointment, you will not regret it. Life is a direction not a destination and she will get you on the path again.
JB
